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Denial and Sex Offenders

  

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Many people think there is only one form of sex offender denial - "I didn't do it!" This is the form of denial that many people have in mind when sex offender denial is discussed.

There are, however, other forms of sex offender denial.  They are listed here with examples:

Responsibility: "I was drunk at the time."

                         "I was using cocaine then."

Minimization:   "I never used force on her/him."

Intention:         "I never meant to hurt him."

                         "We were playing and it just happened."

Intrusion:         "I never raped her/him."

                         "Yes, I fondled her, but it was over her clothing."

Harm:                "She/he will forget about it in a couple of years."

Frequency:        "It only occurred twice."

Deviant Fantasy: "People who have sexual thoughts about kids 

                             are real perverts!"

Denial is commonplace in our lives.  Think of it this way - if you got a parking ticket would you acknowledge it? Chances are you would - it's no big deal. But, if asked, would you acknowledge that you've looked at Internet porn? Probably not. Denial, in both offender and non-offender, can be seen to be a defense against shame and embarrassment.

Have you noticed other forms of sex offender denial?

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